A cup of rose tea in your memory

Three years since you left, my Love. In your memory I made a cup of rose tea, in the special cup you gave me. I remember how you would make me rose tea — with infinite patience and love and intention you would slowly pour the hot water over the rosebuds, allowing them to gently unfurl. I can only aspire to the greatness of the Tea Master that you were.

I still miss you so much. The years have passed and the pain has dulled a little, but I think of you often. I miss your presence, your humor (you had me in stitches all the time), your love. You have left a Kevin-shaped hole in the lives of many.

One of the last photos of Kevin

It has been a year since Kevin transitioned. I hope he is doing well, wherever he is. He is sorely missed by his nearest and dearest, and fondly remembered by many. He was a very special man .. a loving father and fiancé, brother, nephew, cousin, uncle, a funny guy, a very good friend who did so much to help those he cared about, a lover of animals — especially dogs, and a talented sound healer and vintage audio equipment restorer, amongst his many skills.

This lovely photo is of Kevin resting in the sun on the rooftop of the cancer clinic in Tijuana, in March 2016. Conventional medicine had no cure for him and so other approaches were tried, but it was too late — the cancer had sadly spread too much. May he forever rest in peace.

Love: Kevin’s definition

Kevin received this “definition” of Love in meditation many  years ago:

This is the kind of relationship that Kevin and I had. We had such admiration for each other, and resonance with each other. We were each other’s king and queen. We encouraged and supported each other in everything our partner wanted to do, with no compromise — because we always found a way to support each other’s needs.

We never argued, not that we agreed on everything, that was not a requirement in any way. We let each other be. In three years and two months we were together, there was not one fight! Only love. We always felt *safe* in each other’s love. Never judged. Always 100% accepted. No jealousy or emotional games. Neither of us was going to leave when the going got tough .. and boy, did it get tough.  Kevin always told me “I love you always and forever”.

I love you always and forever too, my Bunny. Thank you for all the little thoughtful things you did for me.  Thank you for being my rock that I could always count on. The time we had together was way too short, but I’ll be forever grateful for your unconditional love.

— Sandi

Kevin talking about the Heathkit AD-1013

 

Here’s another video Kevin made, this time geeking out over the Heathkit AD-1013 Audioscope he restored, in the way only Kevin could.

Edit months later: this video was very helpful while trying to figure out whether the AD-1013 Kevin still had in his studio was fully functional (he sold the one in the video). Thanks, Kevin!

Kevin talking about websites

Amongst the many things Kevin did, he designed, created and hosted a number of websites, both his own sites and sites for various friends and clients. Here he is talking about website basics, and some of his other interests too.

Kevin’s teachings from the Creative Heart Retreat

Wanting to hear Kevin’s voice again, I hunted down some of his videos. Here is one where he is repeating a presentation from The Creative Heart retreat in May 2013.

Enjoy Kevin talking about the things very dear to his heart — raising consciousness, frequency, resonance, and similar subjects.

Kevin’s Obituary

Published at the Star Tribune website:

Kevin Dennis Doheny

Doheny, Kevin Dennis Loving Dad, Brother, Uncle, Nephew & Friend. Born November 1, 1958 and died April 14, 2016 following a long illness. Preceded in death by parents Robert and Marian. Survived by children, Leila & Heath; brother, Darren (Kathy), nieces Maddie & Olivia and nephew Matthew; Aunt Virginia Lowell and cousin, Bruce (Carol) Lowell, special friend Sandi Tiffin and many colleagues and friends. Interment at Lakewood Cemetery Mausoleum on Friday April 29, 2016 at 2:00 pm. Washburn-McReavy.com Davies Chapel 612-377-2203 2301 Dupont Ave. S.



Footnote: As mentioned in a previous post, Sandi was actually Kevin’s fiancée; Kevin and Sandi became engaged to be married on February 14, 2014, exactly one year after first meeting. Yes, they first met on Valentine’s Day!

14 April 2016: A significant day

Today Kevin journeyed into the Light, he peacefully took his last earthly breath and returned to his true home. He was blessedly relieved of his immense pain and suffering, after a life well lived.

Soon after it hit home that Kevin had left, I realized that true to his nature, he chose a significant day in the Mayan Tzolkin calendar to transition: 5 Dog. In the last part of his life, at least, Kevin was always aware of the galactic tone and sun sign of the day on the Mayan calendar, but wasn’t always certain whether it was Wednesday or Saturday. The frequency and resonance of the day was more important to him than any earthly calendar.

Both 5 and Dog describe Kevin very well. He was an excellent investigator, an engineer at heart, who took things apart to see how they worked, and rebuilt things better than new. He loved to work on cars. He learned electronics in order to be able to maintain and restore audio equipment. He studied computer science and music, learned how to be a hypnotherapist and healer, and created Sound Hypnosis. As he learned who he really was and was empowered by that knowledge, he wanted to empower others to heal and know who they really were. He truly did probe directly to the core of what is important here on earth — self-knowledge, and relationships with self and others.

Kevin was like a dog in many ways; a family man, loyal, devoted, loving, warm-hearted. Definitely very brave, and playful. And he loved dogs. He was even born in the Chinese Year of the Dog. The Tzolkin calendar says 5 Dog is a good day to enjoy family and friends; a great day for a reunion with his family and friends on other other side … I am sure his dogs were also waiting for him on the other side, there must have been great joy in that reunion.

In addition, in Western numerology, 5 is a number associated with transition and travel. A perfect day to leave this world. Even 14 is a ‘5’ day (4 + 1).  His hospital room was also a ‘5’ number.  And 14/04/2016 is a ‘9’ day — if you add up all the digits you get 18, add 1 and 8 you get 9. In Western numerology, 9 is the ending of a cycle.

If that were not enough, in the Gregorian calendar, 14 April is also significant in several ways. Firstly, it is the day the Titanic hit the iceberg and began to sink. One of Kevin’s best friends, Bill, remembers a past life as a designer and builder of the Titanic, and going down with the ship. It is also Bill’s birthday, and the birthday of Sandi’s sister, Julia. Those two people will forever share the joy of their birthdays with the sadness (for us) of Kevin’s passing.

— Sandi (Kevin’s fiancée)